Dear Gwendolyn:
I am in the process of making preparations for my wedding in June. We have dated for six years. During those years I have caught him cheating on me at least 15 times or more.
This is the problem: We have never lived together, but he often spends nights with me. His main place of stay is at his mother’s house. He doesn’t have a job because he was laid off six years ago. I do not have children by him.
Gwendolyn, I caught him cheating on me just two months ago – six months after he proposed to me. I know that I should let him go, but I have decided to go ahead with the marriage. When men court while engaged or involved, they usually change when married. I look forward to happiness with him.
Louise
Dear Louise:
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. I do think you should give great attention to the character of your fiancé. First of all, I find it difficult to believe he could not find a job within six years. Secondly, when a man lives with his mom too long, you don’t know his strength when it comes to being financially stable. None of this, however, even touches the problem of his ‘cheating’ – a serious problem you seem to turn away.
Louise, you made the statement that “when men court while engaged or involved, they usually change when married.” Let me tell you this: You are in for a rude awakening. Men who cheat before marriage do change once they become married. – They get worse.
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